The Power of Inner Dialogue
I was at the tournament, in the bullpen in London. Not sure how many more matches until the final, just doing the usual and focusing on one match a time. Until Superdave came up to me and informed me I had made it to the final against Claudia Devol.
The inner dialogue was very interesting now that I look at it, where my thoughts naturally went. As I saw on the floor (to save every last bit of energy) I thought about how she's a world champion, how long she has been a black belt, how much tournament experience she has had at this level...
Then I gave myself a mental slap. To re-centure the thoughts. Yes, she is good. But so am I. Yes she is a world champion, but she is also still a human with a black belt. So am I.
Whatever thought process I choose to utilize, eventually becomes true for me.
On a different note, it was very interesting to see my thought process. Which brought me to being aware of my inner dialogue. What I think about, what I naturally navigate to in my thoughts, and how I allow outside circumstances to affect my thoughts which affect my attitude, which in turn affect my happiness a lot of the time.
The question is, why am I allowing outside circumstances, events and experiences control me. That's giving away a lot of power. That's giving up a lot of happiness. I can't control what comes at me, but I can make the decision of how I choose to respond to it, of how much I let it affect me, of what I choose to do with it.
Simple. Not easy (as Jason my personal trainer says).
I don't have this mastered by any means.
I also think this is a consistent battle that will be ongoing as I continually discover more layers (as if we would be lucky enough to think something like this would be one layer deep).
But, it did raise a lot of awareness for me, to recognize the thoughts that I am having, what direction they are going, and the opportunity to change them.
I think a big part of this is taking accountability too. When I blame an event or circumstance for losing my Jiu-Jitsu match (I had jet lag, I didn't eat enough, sleeping on the floor before the open made me stiff, I ran out of water, etc) - the blame (or even excuses as to why I lost) - takes away my power. Because it takes away my responsibility and ability to resolve the situation. The real answer to losing is, my Jiu-Jitsu wasn't as good as hers, and I need to go back on those mats and keep working.
One answer of excuse and blame allows me to leave the situation.
The other answer of accountability and responsibility leaves it up to me to fix it.
One is easy, the other is the path of a champion.
What I'm processing this week is (by no means mastered), having control of the situation and my happiness and success by taking responsibility and accountability.
It's hard because the excuses and blame are very sneaky and dress themselves up in such a seductive way that I don't even realize I am believing them to be true sometimes.
Simple, not easy.
It's a constant awareness of what is going on in my mind.
Once again, the same theme comes up of the danger of excuses, with the added danger of blame.
Thanks to my good friend Tony Robbins who chatted about some of these concepts in his book 'Awaken The Giant Within'. Great morning read with the coffee.